He's 26 years old. A lot can happen between 18 and 26 that has absolutely NOTHING to do with how somebody was raised.
That includes drug addictions, major affective disorders (bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, etc.) and a whole fucking lot of things NOT related to ANYTHING a parent EVER did with a now ADULT.
Parents aren't computer programmers. There is only so much that can be done if there is something fundamentally wrong going on - mental illness, drugs, mental illness X drugs, etc.
Parents have absolutely no authority to compel drug rehabilitation or treatment for mental illness beyond an offspring's 18th birthday, either.
Explain how you would have handled the situation given your expertise in effective parenting of adults with behavioral difficulties/drug problems. I'm sure we could all learn from your experience.
By SouthBostonYuppie on Wed, 04/25/2012 - 12:57pm.
You've pretty much nailed it. This line is the most troubling:
"Parents have absolutely no authority to compel drug rehabilitation or treatment for mental illness beyond an offspring's 18th birthday, either."
It's that mentality that will significantly increase the chances of your kid ending up on drugs. Bad parents think that whether their kids end up on drugs is random and like playing that lottery. It's not.
I know. I've had friends whose parents were nice, wonderful people but there were terrible parents...and their kids ended up on drugs.
Just like being rich doesn't equate to morals, being nice doesn't equate to good parenting.
Look, I am not trying to be a dick and my comments about the parents being hung was out of line. I apologize. I am just frustrated with that lack of accountability among parents.
I supposed depression, or rage is also a parents fault? How about genetic defects?
Sometimes things simply are not anyone's fault. I've known families where one kid has fallen into addiction and the rest of the family is fine off and normal. They even have a term for that, Black Sheep.
I know his parents. You couldn't find two nicer people who have done their very best to love and raise their family. Shame on you for judging without knowing. Drugs can steal children even from the best of families. May you never have to know that pain.
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Just...
...an incredibly sad commentary on our human condition.
God weeps. ya know?
This guys parents should be
This guys parents should be locked up too.
If you don't know how to raise kids...don't fukin have them. This has nothing to do with locals, yuppies, rich parents or poor parents.
Socio-economic background doesn't equate to morals.
His parents should be hung.
Um ...
He's 26 years old. A lot can happen between 18 and 26 that has absolutely NOTHING to do with how somebody was raised.
That includes drug addictions, major affective disorders (bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, etc.) and a whole fucking lot of things NOT related to ANYTHING a parent EVER did with a now ADULT.
If you think parenting ends
If you think parenting ends at the age of 18 please don't ever have kids.
And if you, brave anon...
thinks that a 26-year-old is still under the complete control of their mommy and daddy, then maybe YOU should never have kids.
I didn't say "complete
I didn't say "complete control" but maybe just enough guidance and leadership to...you know, not stab a grandmother in the neck.
Tell us about your grown children
Parents aren't computer programmers. There is only so much that can be done if there is something fundamentally wrong going on - mental illness, drugs, mental illness X drugs, etc.
Parents have absolutely no authority to compel drug rehabilitation or treatment for mental illness beyond an offspring's 18th birthday, either.
Explain how you would have handled the situation given your expertise in effective parenting of adults with behavioral difficulties/drug problems. I'm sure we could all learn from your experience.
You've pretty much nailed it.
You've pretty much nailed it. This line is the most troubling:
"Parents have absolutely no authority to compel drug rehabilitation or treatment for mental illness beyond an offspring's 18th birthday, either."
It's that mentality that will significantly increase the chances of your kid ending up on drugs. Bad parents think that whether their kids end up on drugs is random and like playing that lottery. It's not.
I know. I've had friends whose parents were nice, wonderful people but there were terrible parents...and their kids ended up on drugs.
Just like being rich doesn't equate to morals, being nice doesn't equate to good parenting.
Look, I am not trying to be a dick and my comments about the parents being hung was out of line. I apologize. I am just frustrated with that lack of accountability among parents.
This post
is straight from the onion, right? right?
I supposed depression, or rage is also a parents fault? How about genetic defects?
Sometimes things simply are not anyone's fault. I've known families where one kid has fallen into addiction and the rest of the family is fine off and normal. They even have a term for that, Black Sheep.
I'm telling your mommy, anon
When she finds out that she doesn't have to support you anymore, she might kick you out of the basement or charge you rent.
Be verrrry afraid!
don't feed
the uhub trolls...
To South Boston Yuppie
I know his parents. You couldn't find two nicer people who have done their very best to love and raise their family. Shame on you for judging without knowing. Drugs can steal children even from the best of families. May you never have to know that pain.
Hey Timmy
How's that career choice working out for you now, big boy?
Man, it'll feel good to watch the civilized world scrape you off the bottom of its shoe.