Being fat no walk in the park
By adamg - Sun, 08/31/2008 - 9:12am.
Tim discusses life for the overweight in the mall (no stores sell extra-large pants), on the T and at Fenway Park:
... It's embarrassing to be fat and to try to function in a society that isn't tailored to people of my size. In a way, I suppose that is motivation to lose weight and to fit in, but in another way it could easily discourage people from making the effort. It's easy to get tired of the embarrassment you feel when meeting new people (yeah, sorry, I'm fat) and when trying to fit into a world made for smaller people.
It's a choice, really. I am working to fit in and be healthier, but until I get there, please, just sell me pants.
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Why accept the treatment you're given?
The embarrassment that Tim feels when meeting new people is, IMHO, his own insecurity. If the people you're meeting look down on you for being fat, why would you want to meet them in the first place? Life is too short to be wasting time on judgmental people.
I'm a fat woman. Not a chubby woman, not a plump woman, but a FAT woman. And I enjoy every day of my life because it's MINE and I CAN. Sure, there are things that I can't do, like run a marathon or wear really small pants, but the things I can do certainly outweigh the things I can't.
I would encourage Tim to do some serious soul-searching and ask himself: Is it really the weight that's the issue or something deeper?
I have a friend who is
I have a friend who is really fat...he gained weight pretty quickly, between times that he needed to wear a suit.
He called me to complain that suit shopping was horrible, he was called "portly", "stout", and other adjectives by the people at the stores.
one of those smaller people says...
Maybe he should have stopped before he got so big. As a small woman, all of five one, and thin I have almost the same problem. Well not quite.
I have a hard time finding adult looking shoes as my feet are size 4.5 And designer duds are made for the tall and skinny, not the short and skinny. I can fit into any seat in Fenway Park, with room for my purse. I feel like Edith Ann when I sit in the new Blue Line trains. Except when someone who looks like Tim decides that since they need more room to sit I am not welcome to personal space.
Tim at least you can loose weight and fit in again. I can't grow any taller no matter how hard I try. And, until you do, could you stop crowding me?
That was incredibly rude and uncalled for
Why on earth do you think it's OK to judge someone based on their size? For your information, a lot of healthcare research suggests that for many people, they're healthier staying at their current size than trying to losing weight. Also, you can't tell by someone's size whether they're healthy. The personal example you give is an especially good one, since many people assume that a thin person (you don't look all that fit in your pictures, but nevermind that) is automatically healthy. You don't identify as healthy though, right? I'm thinking back to the posts you used to make about how you're dying, you can't leave the house, no one believes that you're on your last limbs, etc. Clearly, you don't have the same kind of stamina and strength that many perfectly healthy larger people do.
But putting that aside, assuming that you are convinced that someone's size is something they could just change if they felt like it, why is it any of your business to judge a stranger based on something you think he CAN change? Why not just step out of yourself a little and realize that other people sometimes experience difficulties in life too? You're not the victim in every situation. Especially in Tim's situation, since you PROBABLY HAVEN'T EVEN MET HIM. Do you honestly tell large people on the T that they're taking up "your" space? The space on the T or anywhere else is everyone's. Do you also complain if a passenger is taking up "extra" space on the T with a walker, or a dog carrier, or a child? These things all may or may not involve personal choices to some extent. But they're not your choices. Let people be, already.
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Just make sure you pay in cash
As a fatty I feel qualified to say that TJ Maxx likes the fatties.
I don't know if this is cold
I don't know if this is cold comfort or what, but I'm a skinny guy and have the same problem -- I've never been able to find a concert tee that fit me, I have to get my shirts online, and every suit I buy needs more than $100 in tailoring before I can wear it.
That being said, I've never thought twice when meeting a guy who outweighs me, even by a lot. It seems like they all do.